We can understand our real spiritual advancement by how we are actually taking joy in giving respect and honor to others and how we are not taking joy in being respected and honored ourselves, even if it comes.
The more everyone makes spiritual advancement, the more everyone is happy in that state, the more God is happy. So, that should be our happiness. Then there is no envy or jealousy. There is only competition of who could serve each other better. That is a beautiful state of mind.
We cannot force our way into the spiritual world. We cannot force our way to realization. Everything can only come by mercy. God bestows his mercy and reveals himself according to the devotional love that we have.